Male Slave or Female, Which More Serious About Submission?

It’s interesting to me how when I read about alternative lifestyle forms of male and female slavery, it seems that submissive women appear to take things a little more seriously than their male slave counterparts. Not in all cases but more than often enough. The focus seems distinctly different.

“More seriously” meaning – the male slave usually seems to be focused on sexual matters more than service. Sex itself, BDSM practices, and general worship of the female body. Even his acts of obedience usually revolve around sexual thoughts or behaviors. These claims of “body worship” are really just things he wants to do – worship her ass, feet, legs, etc. While dominant women may like these things, these acts of “worship” are foremost things that male slave is eager to do for his own sexual fulfillment. While acts of submission, they more reflect the existing fetish tastes of the man, even if shared and demanded by the dominatrix.

For all the claims of male submission, when you read between the lines it often comes off that dominant women are really sex objects to him. Sex objects worthy of worship and adoration, but sexual nonetheless. And if so, then his slavery can’t be as serious because it’s done more out of his arousal than pure need to be a slave. Fetish fulfillment like leg worship, or service done in anticipation of some sort of sexual fulfillment.

The question becomes, is it really slavery and service to his Mistress that the male slave is interested in, or just femdom sex?

Many female slaves, while also interested in sex, speak much, much more about service to their Masters. True forms of service and devotion – domestic duties, being supportive of him, deference and obedience to him, the feeling of belonging and fulfillment they feel in slavery, etc. Even with the sexual, it’s more clearly seen as service to him, something she enjoys, but all the more so because he enjoys using her. She wants him to be happy, and is happy through that. Though I’m not saying there aren’t females who are “into submission” purely for the sex too, and quite selfish about it.

Even in Domestic Discipline – the want to be spanked when they feel they’ve done wrong. Not for sexual arousal but the need for punishment and its cathartic effect. I read of many female slaves and housewives speaking of this, but not male ones. When they do it still usually comes off in a more sexual or a baby fetish way. It doesn’t ring as true.

The focus for the two seems different. Dominant women worshipped as sexual goddesses, as compared to obedience and submission to dominant men as masters.

I know with myself, my interest in dominant women is largely sexual as is my submission (and I personally love leg worship, by the way). I enjoy the company of dominant women outside of BDSM and sex also, because I find them very stimulating, intriguing and worth the time. But I don’t think about things like “my slave heart” and need to be owned like so many female subs do. I’m sure there are male slaves who speak that way but the number seems to be far less in comparison.

I’m also sure there are individuals who prove to be exceptions to my observations, but I’m speaking in general terms based upon slave blogs I’ve read.

- Tomas, a sometimes male slave

~ by sometimesmaleslave on November 28, 2008.