Femdom Bondage and the Beauty of Dominant Women

If you look at the domain name for this blog, you’ll notice the words “femdom bondage” in there.

The reason for the first two words should be obvious considering the title of my blog and how I sign it. I don’t identify heavily with being a male slave, at least not to the degree that the lifestyle slavery crowd does, but I do enjoy participation in such sexual acts greatly. It’s a role I take occasionally, but strictly in a sexual setting incorporating degrees of BDSM. Hence the “sometimes” to clarify and to be honest.

But then we come to the other half – femdom bondage. Perhaps some explanation as to the choice.

While the reason for the male slave part of the domain name is clear, the second two words came down to two fetish possibilities – “femdom bondage” or “Pegging” (even as the loser of the two, the reasons for the second choice holding such high regard in my eyes are explained a bit in a previous pegging post I wrote and no doubt will be explored more in future postings). As much as I enjoy strap-on sex, male bondage with a hot dominatrix does edge it out by a slim margin for me, and so that‘s what I went with. There’s something about being tied down with rope and used by a dominatrix that really, really turns me on. That more than anything probably pushes me in that male slave direction, even if its limited to sexual domination. Put is this way, as I’m writing this right now the thought of such a scene is starting to “stir” things if you know what I mean Doesn’t take much to get me going when bondage is the theme.

I find it extremely arousing, so much so that it’s hard to describe fully. I guess it’s that mix of helplessness, the unknown and being forced to take all that will happen. Another big part though, is the effect it has on women. No matter how dominant a girl appears, having a guy tied up always brings out something more in her. A very good something more, that equals all the better sex. It’s a great way to train a woman into being more sexually dominant too. Bondage makes you feel like she’s in control, but it also makes her feel that way.

(I know some will cringe at the thought of me using the words “train” and dominant in the same sentence. I’m talking more of the sexual side of female domination here than lifestyle, though it’s also true that even with the most dominant of women, aspects of sexual domination still take a bit of practice when it comes to certain activities and objects employed in them.)

I think part of why I go for male bondage may very well be because I don’t identify fully with being a slave. What I mean is, bondage obviously creates the very tangible feeling of not having control. It sort of creates a forced submission environment, one that helps me cross the line from who I am normally, into the kind of sexual role I enjoy in the bedroom. Without it, no matter how dominant the woman is, I don’t take her as seriously as I do when tied up. It becomes less a femdom experience than just kinky sex.

Now, I said that pegging came in a close second in my choosing, and that’s very true. But the real top choice would probably be mixing femdom bondage with pegging – being rope tied tight, and spread for a woman’s strap-on. That would definitely be the top choice, but the length of the domain name would be ridiculous if I had a whole string of words in it like that

I don’t know what position I like best when mixing the rope bondage and pegging. I think it would come down to three options. 1 – on a bed, hands over my head and legs on her shoulders – that way I can see her as she does me. 2 – Standing, hands stretched overhead, legs tied apart, with her coming up from behind – not as comfortable, but it’s really intense, and usually is part of a much more developed femdom session. 3 – The standard choice -  bent over something, with each extremity tied off. For pegging this is probably the best position in terms of easy, enjoyable access for both the lucky male slave and strapped dominatrix.

You’ll notice I mention “rope” in a few places – I prefer rope bondage to chains. Both have their merits and I’ll probably write an entire post dedicated to exploring my thoughts on them, but rope have the advantage of being more personal both in feel and how it’s applied.

So there you go, the domain name explained, and with it a bit more about myself and my particular interests in BDSM.

- Tomas, a sometimes male slave

PS – Something more to underline the point – here’s a link to a free bondage and pegging audio I found. It’s recorded by a dominatrix who really loves to pound away inside of a guy – Free Strap-on Audio

What’s hot about it to me is more than just the kind of sex described. It’s also how much this dominatrix is into it. You can hear the confidence and dominance in her voice, along with how much this turns her on too. She’s not describing something she does for the slave to enjoy, she’s describing something she really loves doing just for her own pleasure. She uses the slave to get off, not get him off. It’s literally intoxicating.

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~ by sometimesmaleslave on February 20, 2009.